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Think Outside Your Browser


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Well, it’s here. The madness of the holiday season. Is it just me, or is all the advertising for stuff we can’t live without relentless this year? It’s time to think outside your browser.

I’m going to ask very bluntly:


I know you’re incredibly busy. I know you’re out of time. And yes, I know you don’t want to get in the car and shop local because it’s a royal pain in the ass.


Have we become so impatient and lazy that we have to do everything online now? (Oh, the humanity…)

Just how much money do you want Jeff Bezos to have in his bank account? You do realize that’s where it goes, right?


I’m not asking you to completely change your habits. I’m simply asking on behalf of all hard-working mom and pop shops to please give us a chance to show you that our shops have what you need.

It’s the small shops that keep our communities charming and unique and a fun place to live. I certainly won’t bore you with statistics about your dollars staying local (I know you could care less).

I would rather show you the human side of holiday spending. Each time you shop at a small business, we’re grateful, proud and relieved all at the same time. And we’re doing our happy dance because we love our local customers!

Some small businesses, like Scented Balance, have online shops, too. So if you really insist on online shopping, go to their website. It still makes a difference!

Not sure where to begin? Lemme help ya here:

  • At the Scented Balance Aromatherapy Shop, you can make your own scented bath salts (great for mom!); there’s organic tea, soaps, Himalayan Salt night lights, temporary tattoos and of course aromatherapy products that are pure and ready for gift giving (and a whole lot more). Why not give the gift of good health this year?
  • Mary’s Gourmet Diner is located in downtown Winston-Salem, North Carolina. They are a local landmark, have amazing food and a gift certificate would be perfect for grandparents or parents. You could all go out to dinner together!
  • Seamless Living, NC is owned by Beth Blair, a gifted artist. Her paintings are gorgeous and one-of-a-kind. That’s the gift that keeps on giving! Beth will give you a gift certificate so your recipient can pick out his or her painting according to their taste.
  • Jasper & Fern is owned by photographer Alyson Rorem and offers so much more! This unique mixed use photography studio offers hair and makeup, massage and yoga classes. Alyson is a gifted photographer who brings your inner beauty to life – perfect for a young professional. Again, a gift certificate is perfect!
  • I am part of the Ramey Dawn Wellness Spa in Kernersville, North Carolina. We have a wide array of practitioners and offer gift certificates for each one. You’ll find aromatherapy (that’s me), facials and skin care, massage therapy, mani/pedi’s, LED light therapy, laser-like liposuction, acupuncture and life/health coaching. All under one roof!
  • Rock Box Climbing Gym is perfect for the kids on your list. Instead of more stuff, you’re spending quality time with the kids in your life for a fun experience AND it gets them to put the smart phone away for a few minutes.
  • 3 Pooches Pet Sitting & Dog Walking is a great gift idea for someone who could use a hand taking care of their fur baby. A great idea for someone who’s going on vacation or just plain frazzled and need a hand with Fido.

Do you see what I’m getting at here? Wherever you live, you can find a local restaurant, shop, boutique, photographer, day spa, artist, dogwalker – you name it! Instead of “stuff”, why not give an experience?

All of these gifts help you think outside your browser!

Plus – the best part is, you get to see your own town while you shop. Open your eyes and look at your charming town with fresh eyes – you’ll be amazed at what you find!

I would love to know where you’re shopping local this year – leave a comment below and PLEASE share this post on your favorite social media platform!

On behalf of small business owners everywhere, thank you for shopping small and shopping local – your support means the world to us!



P. S. Free shipping IS NOT FREE. Just sayin…

Magic, Dreams and Mayhem

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Ah, yes. Magic, dreams and mayhem. Sometimes, it all happens at once and boy howdy, we’re having fun!

Scented Balance, Inc. Aromatherapy Shop has moved to new BEE-YOU-TEE-FULL digs in Kernersville, North Carolina! Exciting stuff, especially when I think of where I began.

In my basement. Struggling to get the word out about holistic aromatherapy.

And just like a lucky penny, I keep showing up for you in my awesome aromatherapy shop and at events all around the Piedmont Triad.

Yes. I’ve come a LONG way!

I got most everything in place this past weekend and while it’s still a work in progress, it already feels like home.

Scented Balance is part of the Ramey Dawn Wellness Spa and we’re all moving to this new space. Some physical adjustments are happening as we speak to ensure each practitioner has the right space – including Scented Balance.

It’s all good and I’m so happy with how all of this has unfolded. The new space is beautiful, light, airy and offers so much more as a group of holistic practitioners than we did before in our old space. In the next few weeks, you’ll find additional services:

    • Holistic Nail Technician
    • Doctor of Chiropractic
    • Massage Therapist
    • LED Light Pain Management

Of course, I’m one of the holistic practitioners along with Darrell Brooks, our skin care therapist; Jason Trakas, our acupuncturist and Jessica Jones, our health and life coach. Patti Manuel will be moving into our space and she helps you with the pain management as well as laser-like liposuction.

All under one roof!

Make a day out of pampering yourself with a massage, facial, mani/pedi, manage your weight and enhance your entire quality of life with holistic aromatherapy.

Thursday, November 21st marks the very first event in the new Scented Balance aromatherapy shop – come get your awesome Fairy Hair from a real certified fairy and let’s celebrate the magic, dreams and mayhem together!

I’m grateful for this next step in my aromatherapy (and life) journey and I’m so happy you’ve chosen to come along for the ride. In the coming months, I’ll have more events, new products and surprises along the way including expanded shop hours.

Let’s talk today about how aromatherapy can make a real difference in your life – you can use this contact form, call or email – I can’t wait to talk with you! Come smell us!



Never Give Up

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We’ve all heard those words – never give up. And yet, when you know you’ve taken all you can and then some, it’s hard to keep going.

How do you keep going when your last ounce of energy is gone? What’s the next right step when all you can see is darkness? When the storms of life hit you like a punch in the gut, what’s next?

I wish I had pearls of wisdom for you about moving forward and being tougher than your problems – and yet, they seem like such empty words that only make you feel worse about what you’re going through.

It is indeed true that we learn from hardship more so than ease. (Seriously, I’d like to try learning from ease – just once.)

When The Weariness Takes Over

I want to be the person in your life who lifts you up and helps you to see your amazing strength. When life intervenes (as it does) I want you to know this: 


Yes, it feels like we’re (I’m) alone sometimes. 

I’m here to shine a light – however small – in a dark world. I choose kindness, compassion and empathy because I believe it’s in short supply. To be honest, there are some days where I don’t know if anyone out there knows I exist. That’s an exaggeration, but it really feels that way sometimes.

Am I the only one or do you feel that way, too?

Deep down in my soul, I believe I’m here to shine a light brightly and I use aromatherapy as the catalyst. Oh, and a twisted, warped sense of humor. (Many times at my own expense.)

Never Give Up

In my cyber travels, I came across this inspirational story from the 1992 summer Olympics in Barcelona, Spain. Athletes of this caliber train a lifetime for a shot at Olympic glory. Most of us can’t even imagine how hard or lonely it is to train day after day – for just one shot.

And then – the unimaginable happens.

My heart ached watching this video because Derek Redmond worked so hard to reach the Olympic games. He didn’t give up though. He kept going; determined to finish the race come hell or high water. His father ran onto the track to help him finish the race.

But the story doesn’t end there.

Nearly thirty years later, Derek Redmond is an in-demand motivational speaker and brand ambassador around the world. Had he laid on the track and given up, he would be a mere footnote in history.

He didn’t give up.

He kept going even when everything was against him.

He had help getting to the finish line – but he crossed it and his life changed forever.

A Blend To Help You Keep Going

I love this particular blend of essential oils to help me through those times when I feel like I just can’t take any more.

Motivational Blend

  • 6 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill
  • 5 drops Frankincense
  • 4 drops Sweet Orange 
  • 4 drops Rosemary
  • 4 drops Palo Santo
  • 2 ounces Unscented Lotion OR Jojoba Wax
  • 2 ounce Glass Bottle with Treatment Pump

Blend all the oils together and add the lotion OR the jojoba wax – either one works very well. Shake well and use three or four times daily. If you want this blend, it’s $24.95 plus tax and shipping. Just send an email to me or a Facebook Instant Message and I’ll take it from there.

It’s okay to struggle. And it’s even okay-er to ask for help (more okay?)! Please know that I hold space for each of you and shine my light to brighten your darkness.

There’s a lot of sadness and dark energy floating around – please take a moment to share this post on your favorite social media platform. That’s what I want for today – for you to share this post. We need as much light as possible.

Thank you.




Signs from the Universe – Don’t Give Up

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Do you feel like there’s some really strange energy floating around? Have you felt “off” lately? It’s been a strange few weeks for me, so if you’re feeling anything like this, you’re not alone! Just when I feel like I’ve had enough, I get signs from the universe – don’t give up.

What’s Going On?

I wish I knew.

There’s been times in the last few weeks where I walk into a business or store and the energy coming at me is overwhelming.

I’m one of those people who can sense “vibrations”. About 80% of the time, I can be in a room full of people I don’t know and I can tell you who’s pissed off, who’s depressed, who’s happy, who’s fighting a panic attack – any number of things.

Sheesh…that’s a lot of information.

So when I feel like something’s off kilter, it really affects me. And something has affected me to the point of overwhelm. Okay, so I’m a grownup and not supposed to feel like this anymore! 

But I have over the last few weeks – have you?

Strange Energy In The Air

I’m ’bout as curious as they come and this can’t just be me feeling this, right? So, I typed in “strange energy in the air” and came up with an interesting article.

Maybe I’m not losing my mind, maybe it’s electromagnetic energy in the air. You know, we’re all joined at the hip with our electronics. Whether it’s our cell phones, computers, tablets or televisions, we use them 24/7.

I heard on the radio today that 78% of adults would give up sex before giving up wifi. That’s a sad commentary on our species – don’t you think?

Ah, but I digress. 

A website called Active Post explains how electromagnetic fields (EMF) interact with our bodies. This is my first encounter with this site, so I don’t know much about them except their tagline says “Alternative News. Independent Views.” Hmmm… Electromagnetic Fields, emf, strange energy, feel scattered, signs from the universe don't give up

Anyway, one paragraph stuck out to me about EMF (EMF is very real) and how it affects us:

Most people don’t realize that their cellphones are miniature microwave heaters. Whether carried in the pocket, in the bra, or in your hand near your face and head, you are irradiating yourself with signals that penetrate your body and brain, and the frequency is in the same microwave range as the kitchen appliance that heats your soup. 

Well hell. We’re all frying ourselves to death, and this is also about the time of the year when sun spots spike which causes an uproar in the atmosphere.

Hmmm…I’m not quite sure what the strange energy is that I’m experiencing, but EMF may have something to do with it.

Signs From The Universe – Don’t Give Up

I hope you don’t mind a little TMI. I’ve had my share of struggles throughout the years and I know you have, too. Who knows? Maybe it’s as simple as strange energy.

Life has thrown some unexpected curveballs lately and if you’ve received a few of them yourself, then allow me to share some signs from the universe that I’ve received.

I’ve noticed a lot of signs lately that are just now beginning to make sense. I received three emails this morning with interesting subject lines:

    1. Believe In Yourself Without Self Doubt
    2. You Are Of High Value
    3. 21 Words To Make Us Feel Safe And Seen

I used one of my Conscious Ink Temporary Tattoos over the weekend and guess which one it was? You guessed it. Don’t give up.

How’s that for a message from the universe, eh?

If you’re sensing some strange energy out there and it’s making you feel scattered and nuts, never fear. I have a wonderful grounding blend for you that I created for myself when I feel scattered, restless and overwhelmed.

Grounding And Calming Blend

    • 6 drops German Chamomile
    • 6 drops Lavender
    • 5 drops Sweet Orange
    • 3 drops Patchouli
    • 4 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill
    • 4 drops Palo Santo
    • 2 ounces Unscented Body Lotion
    • 2 ounce Blue Bottle w/Treatment Pump

Mix all ingredients together and shake well before each use. Generously apply to throat, back of neck, chest and arms whenever needed. If you don’t have all of these oils, I make this for $21.95 plus shipping (and tax).

All you have to do is send an email to me ( balance ( at ) scentedbalance dot com) and I’ll take it from there.  If it’s easier, simply fill out the contact form and it’ll come right to my email box. Either way, let’s talk today – okay?

Thank you for letting me speak from the heart today – we all have our moments and as always, it’ll work itself out. In the meantime…



P.S. Yes, that’s my arm with the actual temporary tattoo applied. Want one? Let’s talk!




Are You Paying Attention?

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“Are you paying attention?”

I can’t begin to tell you how many times I was told to “pay attention” as a kid. If it wasn’t my parents then it was my teachers all telling me to pay attention to them.

It used to annoy me to no end when they said that. I thought I was paying attention! Obviously I wasn’t or the adults in my life wouldn’t be screaming at me all the time.

Yes, my thoughts would wander all the time – I see that now. My feet have very high arches and yes, that’s a sign of being a dreamer. 

But I lived in a dream world of let’s pretend because that was way more fun than my reality. I didn’t have an imaginary friend as there wasn’t time for that, but I did allow my thoughts to wander into far off directions.

My second grade teacher, Mrs. Matson, truly loved books and loved to read. At the beginning of our class reading competition, she told all of us that if we read books, we could go anywhere in the world, meet other children and learn anything we wanted because books allowed you to learn and grow and discover really cool stuff.

Which was good news to me as I dealt with some really dark days as a child. I needed to discover really cool stuff and reading provided an escape.

I came in second in that reading competition. I still love to read and still believe books – especially printed books – fuel your desires and dreams.

Ah, but I digress – or is that wandering off?

Pay Attention!

Anyway – back to paying attention.

Life gets so hectic and off-kilter that sometimes we don’t pay attention to the signals, signs, coincidences and serendipities that happen all around us guiding us toward discovering really cool stuff. As in the desires we have. (Guilty as charged!)

What I mean by that is this: you have dreams and aspirations and when you allow your mind to wander off to your happy place, your subconscious mind goes looking for opportunities to turn your happy place into your reality.

Where are these signs?

(Seriously, y’all I’m overdue for a good coincidence or two!)

So often, the daily mental chatter takes over my life. I’ve talked before about how difficult it is for me to meditate because of my “monkey mind”. I sincerely believe all the hullabaloo and rat race keeps me on edge.

I’ve struggled with this. Sometimes, I get frustrated with what I don’t have that it becomes difficult to open my heart and eyes to see what I do have. This has been a real battle in my journey to realize that I have so much.

Please don’t misunderstand. I choose to be a very grateful person. But, there’s times when I wish I had something different than what’s in front of me. My sense is, in that moment, this annoying feeling has to do with impatience in reaching my dreams.

Do you ever feel like this?

Aromatherapy and Self Awareness

Back to signals, signs and coincidences – they’re all around us! It may be a song that plays over and over and catches your attention, the random subject of an email, an overheard snippet of a conversation, a billboard or even a license plate with a message for you at that moment.

Open your mind and heart and allow the coincidences and serendipities of life to seep into your consciousness. I truly believe in order to do this, you must have an open heart and a willingness to see your life in a different way.

My favorite color is purple, so for the next week, I’m going to be on the lookout for something purple that’s extraordinary. I’ll let you know next week what I find.

What do you wish would show up in your life? What are you looking for that’s different from what you see right now? Third Eye Chakra Rollerball, tap into your intuition

The Third Eye Chakra Aromatherapy Rollerball is meant to help with your awareness – paying attention, if you will. It helps balance your intuition energy center which is called the third eye and is located between your eyebrows.

If you have headaches, difficulty concentrating or maybe can’t see out of the box you’re in (I’ve been there!), it could very well be your third eye Chakra is out of balance.

I deeply believe that aromatherapy has transformed my life and I know how much good it can do for balancing your body, mind and spirit.

When I sit down to write, things come into my mind and they go right to my keyboard. If they come to my mind, then I know there’s someone out there who needs a glimpse of something different and sharing that with you may make a huge difference in your life. Aromatherapy can help to turn that glimpse into awareness.

That’s what makes me a very different aromatherapist.

Wanna talk? You can visit me at the events I attend, at my awesome studio in Kernersville, send an email or fill out this contact form.

How can I help you today?