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Are You Paying Attention?

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“Are you paying attention?”

I can’t begin to tell you how many times I was told to “pay attention” as a kid. If it wasn’t my parents then it was my teachers all telling me to pay attention to them.

It used to annoy me to no end when they said that. I thought I was paying attention! Obviously I wasn’t or the adults in my life wouldn’t be screaming at me all the time.

Yes, my thoughts would wander all the time – I see that now. My feet have very high arches and yes, that’s a sign of being a dreamer. 

But I lived in a dream world of let’s pretend because that was way more fun than my reality. I didn’t have an imaginary friend as there wasn’t time for that, but I did allow my thoughts to wander into far off directions.

My second grade teacher, Mrs. Matson, truly loved books and loved to read. At the beginning of our class reading competition, she told all of us that if we read books, we could go anywhere in the world, meet other children and learn anything we wanted because books allowed you to learn and grow and discover really cool stuff.

Which was good news to me as I dealt with some really dark days as a child. I needed to discover really cool stuff and reading provided an escape.

I came in second in that reading competition. I still love to read and still believe books – especially printed books – fuel your desires and dreams.

Ah, but I digress – or is that wandering off?

Pay Attention!

Anyway – back to paying attention.

Life gets so hectic and off-kilter that sometimes we don’t pay attention to the signals, signs, coincidences and serendipities that happen all around us guiding us toward discovering really cool stuff. As in the desires we have. (Guilty as charged!)

What I mean by that is this: you have dreams and aspirations and when you allow your mind to wander off to your happy place, your subconscious mind goes looking for opportunities to turn your happy place into your reality.

Where are these signs?

(Seriously, y’all I’m overdue for a good coincidence or two!)

So often, the daily mental chatter takes over my life. I’ve talked before about how difficult it is for me to meditate because of my “monkey mind”. I sincerely believe all the hullabaloo and rat race keeps me on edge.

I’ve struggled with this. Sometimes, I get frustrated with what I don’t have that it becomes difficult to open my heart and eyes to see what I do have. This has been a real battle in my journey to realize that I have so much.

Please don’t misunderstand. I choose to be a very grateful person. But, there’s times when I wish I had something different than what’s in front of me. My sense is, in that moment, this annoying feeling has to do with impatience in reaching my dreams.

Do you ever feel like this?

Aromatherapy and Self Awareness

Back to signals, signs and coincidences – they’re all around us! It may be a song that plays over and over and catches your attention, the random subject of an email, an overheard snippet of a conversation, a billboard or even a license plate with a message for you at that moment.

Open your mind and heart and allow the coincidences and serendipities of life to seep into your consciousness. I truly believe in order to do this, you must have an open heart and a willingness to see your life in a different way.

My favorite color is purple, so for the next week, I’m going to be on the lookout for something purple that’s extraordinary. I’ll let you know next week what I find.

What do you wish would show up in your life? What are you looking for that’s different from what you see right now? Third Eye Chakra Rollerball, tap into your intuition

The Third Eye Chakra Aromatherapy Rollerball is meant to help with your awareness – paying attention, if you will. It helps balance your intuition energy center which is called the third eye and is located between your eyebrows.

If you have headaches, difficulty concentrating or maybe can’t see out of the box you’re in (I’ve been there!), it could very well be your third eye Chakra is out of balance.

I deeply believe that aromatherapy has transformed my life and I know how much good it can do for balancing your body, mind and spirit.

When I sit down to write, things come into my mind and they go right to my keyboard. If they come to my mind, then I know there’s someone out there who needs a glimpse of something different and sharing that with you may make a huge difference in your life. Aromatherapy can help to turn that glimpse into awareness.

That’s what makes me a very different aromatherapist.

Wanna talk? You can visit me at the events I attend, at my awesome studio in Kernersville, send an email or fill out this contact form.

How can I help you today?

Blessings,

Melissa

 

It’s National Small Business Week

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May 5 – 11, 2019 is National Small Business Week – and that’s cause for celebration!

This week, in honor of National Small Business Week, I’m celebrating the new location of Scented Balance at the Ramey Dawn Wellness Group! My new studio is located at 108 South Main Street in Kernersville, North Carolina.

Scented Balance Aromatherapy is a local, independent small business and I hope you’ll take a few moments to find out more about my products and services – especially this week!

Celebrating Small Business Owners

I also want to celebrate and share the love for some of my hard-working fellow entrepreneurs:

      • Alyson Rorem of Jasper and Fern Photographers. If you ever want to truly see what your soul looks like on camera, get your photograph taken at Jasper & Fern in Winston-Salem. She’s an amazing photographer!
      • Tressa Krenzer of Lovingkindness Reiki and Yoga. What an amazing healer! Tressa works to help you heal through Reiki and also specializes in yoga for all levels and sizes. You’ll love her heart and soul.
      • Mary Haglund of Mary’s Gourmet Diner. There are no words to describe the depth of my admiration for this amazing entrepreneur! Mary is a shining light in the Piedmont Triad through her restaurant and by sharing her wisdom with other women.
      • Pattie Manuel of PBM Personal Training and Ramey Dawn Wellness Group. Pattie is the perfect professional to help you manage your weight (and your pain) in a safe non-judgmental environment. 
      • Jessi Ruiz of Sweet Aromaz Coffee Shop. Awesome coffee, beautiful flowers and she provides a wonderful atmosphere – an awesome place to be!
      • Allison Dahl of Dahlia’s Floral Designs. Everything from wedding flowers to simple everyday floral beauty, Dahlia’s is the place to go!
      • Kristin Schollander of Catbird Art and Events. Kristin organizes monthly handcrafted artisan events at various locations around the Triad. A huge proponent of #shoplocal and #shopsmall, Kristin offers first-class events!
      • Kandi Villano of Computer and Technology Solutions, Inc. Kandi can host your website, help you with your QuickBooks, fix your computer and handle your phone system as well as answer a million tech-related questions.
      • Margaret Morris of Triad Speech Consultants. Margaret can help you beef up your public speaking skills, smooth your regional accent and enhance your self-confidence.

Thinking About Small Businesses First

These are just a few of the small businesses that I know – who do you know?

Where do you go for flowers?

Who helps you with your computer problems?

What’s your favorite coffee shop?

When you need a product or service, do you think about a small business first?

Do you ever shop at your local farmer’s market? Yes – farmers are small business owners as well.

Is there a small gift shop that you could go to for the next gift that you need?

It’s not the huge conglomerates that move the economy. It’s all the small businesses in all the towns and cities across America that keep the economy humming along.

Shift 10% Of Your Spending To Make A REAL Impact

Just by shifting 10% of your shopping dollars to local mom and pop stores, you’re keeping the local economy healthy and giving back to your community.

Here’s a few good reasons why shopping local makes sense:

      1. Small businesses pay their taxes to their local community which goes back into your neighborhood and town.
      2. Over half the jobs in America come from small businesses – NOT the big guys!
      3. Better and more personal customer service. Seriously.
      4. Small businesses create a sense of community – I met ALL of the small business owners listed above at community events. 
      5. Doesn’t giving back and helping someone you know live their dream give you a good feeling? It does. Really it does.

Have you ever thought about going into business for yourself? There’s local FREE help through the Small Business Center at Forsyth Tech, Guilford Tech and at Davidson Community College, various networking groups around town and the Small Business Administration.

All of these resources are FREE. Use them – that’s what they’re there for!

I love being an entrepreneur. It’s challenging, rewarding and makes me part of an amazing community of like-minded entrepreneurs.

Want to know more? Fill out this contact form and let’s talk – whether it’s about aromatherapy or small business ownership – I’m here for you!

Blessings,

Melissa

P.S. Please take a moment to share this post and leave a comment with your favorite small business! That’s how YOU can help!

Are We Teaching Our Girls To Shine?

Are We Teaching Our Girls To Shrink,, #timesup movementWoohoo! It’s Women’s History Month which is awesome! It shines a light on the accomplishments of some amazing women from all walks of life who might otherwise simply be a footnote in history.

With that said, are we teaching our girls to shine or shrink?

I’m frustrated by the double standard that women still endure. Our lives are far more complicated and difficult than that of our male counterparts.

Why is it that we had to fight for an amendment simply to cast a ballot? That was the 19th Amendment to the Constitution passed in  March, 1919.

One hundred years later, we’re still fighting to be taken seriously in the board room, still fighting to be paid equal to a man and we bear the brunt of marriage and children (yes, actually we do) called the second and third shift. Work life balance

We still live in a patriarchal society where strong passionate women are considered bossy and yet a strong passionate man is considered a leader.

Why is that?

Honestly, tell me something. What’s the difference between two strong passionate personalities – one being female and one being male – who accomplish great things for themselves and the world?

Nothing.

Except perception and gender. 

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a MacArthur Foundation Fellow, author and national speaker who says this about what we teach girls:

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.

She really lays it out there, doesn’t she? 

And it’s all true.

Gender Differences

So, why is it okay to teach girls to aspire to marriage, but not boys? What’s the difference?

Why is it okay for boys to have unlimited ambition but not girls? What’s the difference?

Why do men get paid more than women for doing the same job? What’s the difference?

Why can men enjoy a drink at a bar but women are just “asking for it” if they do the same thing? What’s the difference?

I believe finally the tide is beginning to turn in our favor. The #metoo and #timesup movements have been able to shine a bright and long overdue light on sexual harassment and gender inequality.

It’s long past time that we began teaching our daughters in earnest that they never have to shrink or make themselves smaller to appease powerful men, get ahead or simply survive. 

Let’s Celebrate Women’s History Month Women's History Month, work life balance, gender inequality, gender differences

In honor of Women’s History Month, The Skimm offers up 19 women who have made a difference in sports, business, entertainment and politics such as:

Let’s make a pact right now to teach our girls that it’s okay to be ambitious – whatever that looks like to her; that it’s okay to be intelligent; that it’s okay to be successful beyond her wildest dreams.

Let’s also teach them that the same leadership qualities we hold dear in men are welcome and celebrated in women.

Let’s teach our girls that it’s okay if they don’t want to be married or have children and that it’s perfectly fine to excel in business, sports, politics, science, math and technology.

Please take a moment to tell me your thoughts on gender inequality. How has it affected you? Please leave your comments below – I’d love to hear from you.

I’m grateful that you stopped by today – want to talk about something? Fill out this short contact form and let’s talk!

Blessings,

Melissa

A Little Self Love on Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is this week – ah, the day of love. I’m more interested in a little self love on Valentine’s Day so I have one question. 

Why do we need one day a year to really focus on love?

Focusing On Love Every Day

My beliefs have changed over the years (I’m sure yours have, too) and here’s something I live by:

We are all connected.

In talking with a friend of mine the other day, she said something that really spoke to me. She said, “when you love yourself and practice real self-care, that goes out into the universe and helps everyone else, too.”

Today, I’d like to share a little bit of love and send all sorts of good vibes out into the universe. This is an excerpt from the Beautiful You Manifesto written by Rosie Molinary. You can read the entire manifesto – which is amazing – on the Beautiful You page at Scented Balance.

practice radical self-acceptance.

you are already worthy. you are always enough.

embrace your total wellness – your body, soul and mind guide you through this life.

you must take care of you. you teach other people how to treat you.

never forget that you have the right and responsibility to quit anything that hurts you.

What strikes me the most is the sentence about practicing radical self acceptance. Honestly, I never really thought about self love and self acceptance until I actually started writing down the words that I say to myself.

whoo…

Yes, I’ve written about radical self love and self acceptance several other times. But it bears repeating as many times as it takes for women (in particular) to realize we are so much more than what society would have us believe.

Today, during this week of Valentine’s Day, take a look inward and see how you can love yourself just a little bit more. How about focusing on treasured friendships (especially your gal pals) instead of the hype?what is self care, self care, self care activities, Galentine's Day, teach other people how to treat you

I’ve always thought that Valentine’s Day is incredibly high-pressure and overblown. Romantic love can be fleeting and messy and for some, Valentine’s Day is miserable.

For the few people in my life that I dearly love – I let them know as often as possible. Otherwise, it becomes just like the day after Christmas – everything goes back to normal and the cease-fire ends.

I’ve created a beautiful blend for practicing self love.

Self Love Blend

  • 5 drops Lavender (Lavendula angustifolia)
  • 3 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill (Citrus aurantium var. amara)
  • 2 drops Jasmine (Jasminum grandiflorium)
  • 2 drops Frankincense (Boswellia carterii)
  • 10 mL Jojoba Wax
  • 10 mL roller bottle

Combine all ingredients and roll on your heart area three times daily.

In the next few days, I have a new line of aromatherapy roller ball scents making their debut specifically for Chakra care. I’ve paid particular attention to the heart Chakra which is the center of love for yourself and others.

To celebrate friendships, I’m hosting a Galentine’s Day Get Together on February 13th from 7 – 9 PM at my newly renovated and oh-so-beautiful studio.

I want you to feel a warm welcome when you step into my studio and the first 10 Galentines will each receive a sample of the Heart Chakra blend. #galentinesday

I want each one of you to know how beautiful you are – inside and out. To each of you – you’re amazing with your own special gifts and I’m honored that you’ve chosen to be a part of my community.

Many thanks, blessings and much love to you always!

Melissa

Personal Responsibility Or Personal Investment?

We've all heard about taking personal responsibility for our own lives. Based on a recent wonderful learning experience, I'd like to reframe that if I may.  What do you think makes a bigger impact: personal responsibility or personal investment?

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