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Never Give Up

Never Give Up, stay strong, shine your light brightly

We’ve all heard those words – never give up. And yet, when you know you’ve taken all you can and then some, it’s hard to keep going.

How do you keep going when your last ounce of energy is gone? What’s the next right step when all you can see is darkness? When the storms of life hit you like a punch in the gut, what’s next?

I wish I had pearls of wisdom for you about moving forward and being tougher than your problems – and yet, they seem like such empty words that only make you feel worse about what you’re going through.

It is indeed true that we learn from hardship more so than ease. (Seriously, I’d like to try learning from ease – just once.)

When The Weariness Takes Over

I want to be the person in your life who lifts you up and helps you to see your amazing strength. When life intervenes (as it does) I want you to know this: 


Yes, it feels like we’re (I’m) alone sometimes. 

I’m here to shine a light – however small – in a dark world. I choose kindness, compassion and empathy because I believe it’s in short supply. To be honest, there are some days where I don’t know if anyone out there knows I exist. That’s an exaggeration, but it really feels that way sometimes.

Am I the only one or do you feel that way, too?

Deep down in my soul, I believe I’m here to shine a light brightly and I use aromatherapy as the catalyst. Oh, and a twisted, warped sense of humor. (Many times at my own expense.)

Never Give Up

In my cyber travels, I came across this inspirational story from the 1992 summer Olympics in Barcelona, Spain. Athletes of this caliber train a lifetime for a shot at Olympic glory. Most of us can’t even imagine how hard or lonely it is to train day after day – for just one shot.

And then – the unimaginable happens.

My heart ached watching this video because Derek Redmond worked so hard to reach the Olympic games. He didn’t give up though. He kept going; determined to finish the race come hell or high water. His father ran onto the track to help him finish the race.

But the story doesn’t end there.

Nearly thirty years later, Derek Redmond is an in-demand motivational speaker and brand ambassador around the world. Had he laid on the track and given up, he would be a mere footnote in history.

He didn’t give up.

He kept going even when everything was against him.

He had help getting to the finish line – but he crossed it and his life changed forever.

A Blend To Help You Keep Going

I love this particular blend of essential oils to help me through those times when I feel like I just can’t take any more.

Motivational Blend

  • 6 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill
  • 5 drops Frankincense
  • 4 drops Sweet Orange 
  • 4 drops Rosemary
  • 4 drops Palo Santo
  • 2 ounces Unscented Lotion OR Jojoba Wax
  • 2 ounce Glass Bottle with Treatment Pump

Blend all the oils together and add the lotion OR the jojoba wax – either one works very well. Shake well and use three or four times daily. If you want this blend, it’s $24.95 plus tax and shipping. Just send an email to me or a Facebook Instant Message and I’ll take it from there.

It’s okay to struggle. And it’s even okay-er to ask for help (more okay?)! Please know that I hold space for each of you and shine my light to brighten your darkness.

There’s a lot of sadness and dark energy floating around – please take a moment to share this post on your favorite social media platform. That’s what I want for today – for you to share this post. We need as much light as possible.

Thank you.




Signs from the Universe – Don’t Give Up

Signs From The Universe Don't Give Up, believe in yourself, strange energy, feel scattered, EMF, electromagnetic field,


Do you feel like there’s some really strange energy floating around? Have you felt “off” lately? It’s been a strange few weeks for me, so if you’re feeling anything like this, you’re not alone! Just when I feel like I’ve had enough, I get signs from the universe – don’t give up.

What’s Going On?

I wish I knew.

There’s been times in the last few weeks where I walk into a business or store and the energy coming at me is overwhelming.

I’m one of those people who can sense “vibrations”. About 80% of the time, I can be in a room full of people I don’t know and I can tell you who’s pissed off, who’s depressed, who’s happy, who’s fighting a panic attack – any number of things.

Sheesh…that’s a lot of information.

So when I feel like something’s off kilter, it really affects me. And something has affected me to the point of overwhelm. Okay, so I’m a grownup and not supposed to feel like this anymore! 

But I have over the last few weeks – have you?

Strange Energy In The Air

I’m ’bout as curious as they come and this can’t just be me feeling this, right? So, I typed in “strange energy in the air” and came up with an interesting article.

Maybe I’m not losing my mind, maybe it’s electromagnetic energy in the air. You know, we’re all joined at the hip with our electronics. Whether it’s our cell phones, computers, tablets or televisions, we use them 24/7.

I heard on the radio today that 78% of adults would give up sex before giving up wifi. That’s a sad commentary on our species – don’t you think?

Ah, but I digress. 

A website called Active Post explains how electromagnetic fields (EMF) interact with our bodies. This is my first encounter with this site, so I don’t know much about them except their tagline says “Alternative News. Independent Views.” Hmmm… Electromagnetic Fields, emf, strange energy, feel scattered, signs from the universe don't give up

Anyway, one paragraph stuck out to me about EMF (EMF is very real) and how it affects us:

Most people don’t realize that their cellphones are miniature microwave heaters. Whether carried in the pocket, in the bra, or in your hand near your face and head, you are irradiating yourself with signals that penetrate your body and brain, and the frequency is in the same microwave range as the kitchen appliance that heats your soup. 

Well hell. We’re all frying ourselves to death, and this is also about the time of the year when sun spots spike which causes an uproar in the atmosphere.

Hmmm…I’m not quite sure what the strange energy is that I’m experiencing, but EMF may have something to do with it.

Signs From The Universe – Don’t Give Up

I hope you don’t mind a little TMI. I’ve had my share of struggles throughout the years and I know you have, too. Who knows? Maybe it’s as simple as strange energy.

Life has thrown some unexpected curveballs lately and if you’ve received a few of them yourself, then allow me to share some signs from the universe that I’ve received.

I’ve noticed a lot of signs lately that are just now beginning to make sense. I received three emails this morning with interesting subject lines:

    1. Believe In Yourself Without Self Doubt
    2. You Are Of High Value
    3. 21 Words To Make Us Feel Safe And Seen

I used one of my Conscious Ink Temporary Tattoos over the weekend and guess which one it was? You guessed it. Don’t give up.

How’s that for a message from the universe, eh?

If you’re sensing some strange energy out there and it’s making you feel scattered and nuts, never fear. I have a wonderful grounding blend for you that I created for myself when I feel scattered, restless and overwhelmed.

Grounding And Calming Blend

    • 6 drops German Chamomile
    • 6 drops Lavender
    • 5 drops Sweet Orange
    • 3 drops Patchouli
    • 4 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill
    • 4 drops Palo Santo
    • 2 ounces Unscented Body Lotion
    • 2 ounce Blue Bottle w/Treatment Pump

Mix all ingredients together and shake well before each use. Generously apply to throat, back of neck, chest and arms whenever needed. If you don’t have all of these oils, I make this for $21.95 plus shipping (and tax).

All you have to do is send an email to me ( balance ( at ) scentedbalance dot com) and I’ll take it from there.  If it’s easier, simply fill out the contact form and it’ll come right to my email box. Either way, let’s talk today – okay?

Thank you for letting me speak from the heart today – we all have our moments and as always, it’ll work itself out. In the meantime…



P.S. Yes, that’s my arm with the actual temporary tattoo applied. Want one? Let’s talk!




Are You Paying Attention?

Are You Paying Attention, Pay Attention, Third Eye Chakra

“Are you paying attention?”

I can’t begin to tell you how many times I was told to “pay attention” as a kid. If it wasn’t my parents then it was my teachers all telling me to pay attention to them.

It used to annoy me to no end when they said that. I thought I was paying attention! Obviously I wasn’t or the adults in my life wouldn’t be screaming at me all the time.

Yes, my thoughts would wander all the time – I see that now. My feet have very high arches and yes, that’s a sign of being a dreamer. 

But I lived in a dream world of let’s pretend because that was way more fun than my reality. I didn’t have an imaginary friend as there wasn’t time for that, but I did allow my thoughts to wander into far off directions.

My second grade teacher, Mrs. Matson, truly loved books and loved to read. At the beginning of our class reading competition, she told all of us that if we read books, we could go anywhere in the world, meet other children and learn anything we wanted because books allowed you to learn and grow and discover really cool stuff.

Which was good news to me as I dealt with some really dark days as a child. I needed to discover really cool stuff and reading provided an escape.

I came in second in that reading competition. I still love to read and still believe books – especially printed books – fuel your desires and dreams.

Ah, but I digress – or is that wandering off?

Pay Attention!

Anyway – back to paying attention.

Life gets so hectic and off-kilter that sometimes we don’t pay attention to the signals, signs, coincidences and serendipities that happen all around us guiding us toward discovering really cool stuff. As in the desires we have. (Guilty as charged!)

What I mean by that is this: you have dreams and aspirations and when you allow your mind to wander off to your happy place, your subconscious mind goes looking for opportunities to turn your happy place into your reality.

Where are these signs?

(Seriously, y’all I’m overdue for a good coincidence or two!)

So often, the daily mental chatter takes over my life. I’ve talked before about how difficult it is for me to meditate because of my “monkey mind”. I sincerely believe all the hullabaloo and rat race keeps me on edge.

I’ve struggled with this. Sometimes, I get frustrated with what I don’t have that it becomes difficult to open my heart and eyes to see what I do have. This has been a real battle in my journey to realize that I have so much.

Please don’t misunderstand. I choose to be a very grateful person. But, there’s times when I wish I had something different than what’s in front of me. My sense is, in that moment, this annoying feeling has to do with impatience in reaching my dreams.

Do you ever feel like this?

Aromatherapy and Self Awareness

Back to signals, signs and coincidences – they’re all around us! It may be a song that plays over and over and catches your attention, the random subject of an email, an overheard snippet of a conversation, a billboard or even a license plate with a message for you at that moment.

Open your mind and heart and allow the coincidences and serendipities of life to seep into your consciousness. I truly believe in order to do this, you must have an open heart and a willingness to see your life in a different way.

My favorite color is purple, so for the next week, I’m going to be on the lookout for something purple that’s extraordinary. I’ll let you know next week what I find.

What do you wish would show up in your life? What are you looking for that’s different from what you see right now? Third Eye Chakra Rollerball, tap into your intuition

The Third Eye Chakra Aromatherapy Rollerball is meant to help with your awareness – paying attention, if you will. It helps balance your intuition energy center which is called the third eye and is located between your eyebrows.

If you have headaches, difficulty concentrating or maybe can’t see out of the box you’re in (I’ve been there!), it could very well be your third eye Chakra is out of balance.

I deeply believe that aromatherapy has transformed my life and I know how much good it can do for balancing your body, mind and spirit.

When I sit down to write, things come into my mind and they go right to my keyboard. If they come to my mind, then I know there’s someone out there who needs a glimpse of something different and sharing that with you may make a huge difference in your life. Aromatherapy can help to turn that glimpse into awareness.

That’s what makes me a very different aromatherapist.

Wanna talk? You can visit me at the events I attend, at my awesome studio in Kernersville, send an email or fill out this contact form.

How can I help you today?




It’s National Small Business Week

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May 5 – 11, 2019 is National Small Business Week – and that’s cause for celebration!

This week, in honor of National Small Business Week, I’m celebrating the new location of Scented Balance at the Ramey Dawn Wellness Group! My new studio is located at 108 South Main Street in Kernersville, North Carolina.

Scented Balance Aromatherapy is a local, independent small business and I hope you’ll take a few moments to find out more about my products and services – especially this week!

Celebrating Small Business Owners

I also want to celebrate and share the love for some of my hard-working fellow entrepreneurs:

      • Alyson Rorem of Jasper and Fern Photographers. If you ever want to truly see what your soul looks like on camera, get your photograph taken at Jasper & Fern in Winston-Salem. She’s an amazing photographer!
      • Tressa Krenzer of Lovingkindness Reiki and Yoga. What an amazing healer! Tressa works to help you heal through Reiki and also specializes in yoga for all levels and sizes. You’ll love her heart and soul.
      • Mary Haglund of Mary’s Gourmet Diner. There are no words to describe the depth of my admiration for this amazing entrepreneur! Mary is a shining light in the Piedmont Triad through her restaurant and by sharing her wisdom with other women.
      • Pattie Manuel of PBM Personal Training and Ramey Dawn Wellness Group. Pattie is the perfect professional to help you manage your weight (and your pain) in a safe non-judgmental environment. 
      • Jessi Ruiz of Sweet Aromaz Coffee Shop. Awesome coffee, beautiful flowers and she provides a wonderful atmosphere – an awesome place to be!
      • Allison Dahl of Dahlia’s Floral Designs. Everything from wedding flowers to simple everyday floral beauty, Dahlia’s is the place to go!
      • Kristin Schollander of Catbird Art and Events. Kristin organizes monthly handcrafted artisan events at various locations around the Triad. A huge proponent of #shoplocal and #shopsmall, Kristin offers first-class events!
      • Kandi Villano of Computer and Technology Solutions, Inc. Kandi can host your website, help you with your QuickBooks, fix your computer and handle your phone system as well as answer a million tech-related questions.
      • Margaret Morris of Triad Speech Consultants. Margaret can help you beef up your public speaking skills, smooth your regional accent and enhance your self-confidence.

Thinking About Small Businesses First

These are just a few of the small businesses that I know – who do you know?

Where do you go for flowers?

Who helps you with your computer problems?

What’s your favorite coffee shop?

When you need a product or service, do you think about a small business first?

Do you ever shop at your local farmer’s market? Yes – farmers are small business owners as well.

Is there a small gift shop that you could go to for the next gift that you need?

It’s not the huge conglomerates that move the economy. It’s all the small businesses in all the towns and cities across America that keep the economy humming along.

Shift 10% Of Your Spending To Make A REAL Impact

Just by shifting 10% of your shopping dollars to local mom and pop stores, you’re keeping the local economy healthy and giving back to your community.

Here’s a few good reasons why shopping local makes sense:

      1. Small businesses pay their taxes to their local community which goes back into your neighborhood and town.
      2. Over half the jobs in America come from small businesses – NOT the big guys!
      3. Better and more personal customer service. Seriously.
      4. Small businesses create a sense of community – I met ALL of the small business owners listed above at community events. 
      5. Doesn’t giving back and helping someone you know live their dream give you a good feeling? It does. Really it does.

Have you ever thought about going into business for yourself? There’s local FREE help through the Small Business Center at Forsyth Tech, Guilford Tech and at Davidson Community College, various networking groups around town and the Small Business Administration.

All of these resources are FREE. Use them – that’s what they’re there for!

I love being an entrepreneur. It’s challenging, rewarding and makes me part of an amazing community of like-minded entrepreneurs.

Want to know more? Fill out this contact form and let’s talk – whether it’s about aromatherapy or small business ownership – I’m here for you!



P.S. Please take a moment to share this post and leave a comment with your favorite small business! That’s how YOU can help!

Are We Teaching Our Girls To Shine?

Are We Teaching Our Girls To Shrink,, #timesup movementWoohoo! It’s Women’s History Month which is awesome! It shines a light on the accomplishments of some amazing women from all walks of life who might otherwise simply be a footnote in history.

With that said, are we teaching our girls to shine or shrink?

I’m frustrated by the double standard that women still endure. Our lives are far more complicated and difficult than that of our male counterparts.

Why is it that we had to fight for an amendment simply to cast a ballot? That was the 19th Amendment to the Constitution passed in  March, 1919.

One hundred years later, we’re still fighting to be taken seriously in the board room, still fighting to be paid equal to a man and we bear the brunt of marriage and children (yes, actually we do) called the second and third shift. Work life balance

We still live in a patriarchal society where strong passionate women are considered bossy and yet a strong passionate man is considered a leader.

Why is that?

Honestly, tell me something. What’s the difference between two strong passionate personalities – one being female and one being male – who accomplish great things for themselves and the world?


Except perception and gender. 

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a MacArthur Foundation Fellow, author and national speaker who says this about what we teach girls:

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.

She really lays it out there, doesn’t she? 

And it’s all true.

Gender Differences

So, why is it okay to teach girls to aspire to marriage, but not boys? What’s the difference?

Why is it okay for boys to have unlimited ambition but not girls? What’s the difference?

Why do men get paid more than women for doing the same job? What’s the difference?

Why can men enjoy a drink at a bar but women are just “asking for it” if they do the same thing? What’s the difference?

I believe finally the tide is beginning to turn in our favor. The #metoo and #timesup movements have been able to shine a bright and long overdue light on sexual harassment and gender inequality.

It’s long past time that we began teaching our daughters in earnest that they never have to shrink or make themselves smaller to appease powerful men, get ahead or simply survive. 

Let’s Celebrate Women’s History Month Women's History Month, work life balance, gender inequality, gender differences

In honor of Women’s History Month, The Skimm offers up 19 women who have made a difference in sports, business, entertainment and politics such as:

Let’s make a pact right now to teach our girls that it’s okay to be ambitious – whatever that looks like to her; that it’s okay to be intelligent; that it’s okay to be successful beyond her wildest dreams.

Let’s also teach them that the same leadership qualities we hold dear in men are welcome and celebrated in women.

Let’s teach our girls that it’s okay if they don’t want to be married or have children and that it’s perfectly fine to excel in business, sports, politics, science, math and technology.

Please take a moment to tell me your thoughts on gender inequality. How has it affected you? Please leave your comments below – I’d love to hear from you.

I’m grateful that you stopped by today – want to talk about something? Fill out this short contact form and let’s talk!