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Are You Paying Attention?

Are You Paying Attention, Pay Attention, Third Eye Chakra

“Are you paying attention?”

I can’t begin to tell you how many times I was told to “pay attention” as a kid. If it wasn’t my parents then it was my teachers all telling me to pay attention to them.

It used to annoy me to no end when they said that. I thought I was paying attention! Obviously I wasn’t or the adults in my life wouldn’t be screaming at me all the time.

Yes, my thoughts would wander all the time – I see that now. My feet have very high arches and yes, that’s a sign of being a dreamer. 

But I lived in a dream world of let’s pretend because that was way more fun than my reality. I didn’t have an imaginary friend as there wasn’t time for that, but I did allow my thoughts to wander into far off directions.

My second grade teacher, Mrs. Matson, truly loved books and loved to read. At the beginning of our class reading competition, she told all of us that if we read books, we could go anywhere in the world, meet other children and learn anything we wanted because books allowed you to learn and grow and discover really cool stuff.

Which was good news to me as I dealt with some really dark days as a child. I needed to discover really cool stuff and reading provided an escape.

I came in second in that reading competition. I still love to read and still believe books – especially printed books – fuel your desires and dreams.

Ah, but I digress – or is that wandering off?

Pay Attention!

Anyway – back to paying attention.

Life gets so hectic and off-kilter that sometimes we don’t pay attention to the signals, signs, coincidences and serendipities that happen all around us guiding us toward discovering really cool stuff. As in the desires we have. (Guilty as charged!)

What I mean by that is this: you have dreams and aspirations and when you allow your mind to wander off to your happy place, your subconscious mind goes looking for opportunities to turn your happy place into your reality.

Where are these signs?

(Seriously, y’all I’m overdue for a good coincidence or two!)

So often, the daily mental chatter takes over my life. I’ve talked before about how difficult it is for me to meditate because of my “monkey mind”. I sincerely believe all the hullabaloo and rat race keeps me on edge.

I’ve struggled with this. Sometimes, I get frustrated with what I don’t have that it becomes difficult to open my heart and eyes to see what I do have. This has been a real battle in my journey to realize that I have so much.

Please don’t misunderstand. I choose to be a very grateful person. But, there’s times when I wish I had something different than what’s in front of me. My sense is, in that moment, this annoying feeling has to do with impatience in reaching my dreams.

Do you ever feel like this?

Aromatherapy and Self Awareness

Back to signals, signs and coincidences – they’re all around us! It may be a song that plays over and over and catches your attention, the random subject of an email, an overheard snippet of a conversation, a billboard or even a license plate with a message for you at that moment.

Open your mind and heart and allow the coincidences and serendipities of life to seep into your consciousness. I truly believe in order to do this, you must have an open heart and a willingness to see your life in a different way.

My favorite color is purple, so for the next week, I’m going to be on the lookout for something purple that’s extraordinary. I’ll let you know next week what I find.

What do you wish would show up in your life? What are you looking for that’s different from what you see right now? Third Eye Chakra Rollerball, tap into your intuition

The Third Eye Chakra Aromatherapy Rollerball is meant to help with your awareness – paying attention, if you will. It helps balance your intuition energy center which is called the third eye and is located between your eyebrows.

If you have headaches, difficulty concentrating or maybe can’t see out of the box you’re in (I’ve been there!), it could very well be your third eye Chakra is out of balance.

I deeply believe that aromatherapy has transformed my life and I know how much good it can do for balancing your body, mind and spirit.

When I sit down to write, things come into my mind and they go right to my keyboard. If they come to my mind, then I know there’s someone out there who needs a glimpse of something different and sharing that with you may make a huge difference in your life. Aromatherapy can help to turn that glimpse into awareness.

That’s what makes me a very different aromatherapist.

Wanna talk? You can visit me at the events I attend, at my awesome studio in Kernersville, send an email or fill out this contact form.

How can I help you today?

Blessings,

Melissa

 

It’s National Small Business Week

National Small Business Week, Shop Small, Shop Local, Shift 10%, Small Business Owners,

May 5 – 11, 2019 is National Small Business Week – and that’s cause for celebration!

This week, in honor of National Small Business Week, I’m celebrating the new location of Scented Balance at the Ramey Dawn Wellness Group! My new studio is located at 108 South Main Street in Kernersville, North Carolina.

Scented Balance Aromatherapy is a local, independent small business and I hope you’ll take a few moments to find out more about my products and services – especially this week!

Celebrating Small Business Owners

I also want to celebrate and share the love for some of my hard-working fellow entrepreneurs:

      • Alyson Rorem of Jasper and Fern Photographers. If you ever want to truly see what your soul looks like on camera, get your photograph taken at Jasper & Fern in Winston-Salem. She’s an amazing photographer!
      • Tressa Krenzer of Lovingkindness Reiki and Yoga. What an amazing healer! Tressa works to help you heal through Reiki and also specializes in yoga for all levels and sizes. You’ll love her heart and soul.
      • Mary Haglund of Mary’s Gourmet Diner. There are no words to describe the depth of my admiration for this amazing entrepreneur! Mary is a shining light in the Piedmont Triad through her restaurant and by sharing her wisdom with other women.
      • Pattie Manuel of PBM Personal Training and Ramey Dawn Wellness Group. Pattie is the perfect professional to help you manage your weight (and your pain) in a safe non-judgmental environment. 
      • Jessi Ruiz of Sweet Aromaz Coffee Shop. Awesome coffee, beautiful flowers and she provides a wonderful atmosphere – an awesome place to be!
      • Allison Dahl of Dahlia’s Floral Designs. Everything from wedding flowers to simple everyday floral beauty, Dahlia’s is the place to go!
      • Kristin Schollander of Catbird Art and Events. Kristin organizes monthly handcrafted artisan events at various locations around the Triad. A huge proponent of #shoplocal and #shopsmall, Kristin offers first-class events!
      • Kandi Villano of Computer and Technology Solutions, Inc. Kandi can host your website, help you with your QuickBooks, fix your computer and handle your phone system as well as answer a million tech-related questions.
      • Margaret Morris of Triad Speech Consultants. Margaret can help you beef up your public speaking skills, smooth your regional accent and enhance your self-confidence.

Thinking About Small Businesses First

These are just a few of the small businesses that I know – who do you know?

Where do you go for flowers?

Who helps you with your computer problems?

What’s your favorite coffee shop?

When you need a product or service, do you think about a small business first?

Do you ever shop at your local farmer’s market? Yes – farmers are small business owners as well.

Is there a small gift shop that you could go to for the next gift that you need?

It’s not the huge conglomerates that move the economy. It’s all the small businesses in all the towns and cities across America that keep the economy humming along.

Shift 10% Of Your Spending To Make A REAL Impact

Just by shifting 10% of your shopping dollars to local mom and pop stores, you’re keeping the local economy healthy and giving back to your community.

Here’s a few good reasons why shopping local makes sense:

      1. Small businesses pay their taxes to their local community which goes back into your neighborhood and town.
      2. Over half the jobs in America come from small businesses – NOT the big guys!
      3. Better and more personal customer service. Seriously.
      4. Small businesses create a sense of community – I met ALL of the small business owners listed above at community events. 
      5. Doesn’t giving back and helping someone you know live their dream give you a good feeling? It does. Really it does.

Have you ever thought about going into business for yourself? There’s local FREE help through the Small Business Center at Forsyth Tech, Guilford Tech and at Davidson Community College, various networking groups around town and the Small Business Administration.

All of these resources are FREE. Use them – that’s what they’re there for!

I love being an entrepreneur. It’s challenging, rewarding and makes me part of an amazing community of like-minded entrepreneurs.

Want to know more? Fill out this contact form and let’s talk – whether it’s about aromatherapy or small business ownership – I’m here for you!

Blessings,

Melissa

P.S. Please take a moment to share this post and leave a comment with your favorite small business! That’s how YOU can help!

Another Day – Another Adventure

Another Day - Another Adventure, leap of faith, adventure, aromatherapy in Kernersville, Ramey Dawn Wellness Group

Don’t you love the saying “Another Day – Another Adventure”? It just sounds like so much fun!

Well, I can’t stand it any longer and I just have to tell you about my new adventure!

I’ve been invited to join the Ramey Dawn Wellness Center in Kernersville, North Carolina!

Yasss – now ain’t that some awesome news?

What does that mean for you?

For you, it means Scented Balance is more centrally located in the Piedmont Triad area of North Carolina. It means that I’m practicing aromatherapy in a wellness center with an awesome group of holistic practitioners.

And…it means I’m taking a huge leap of faith and taking Scented Balance to the next level. This is for reals y’all.

I’ve been putting it out to the universe (or whatever higher power you believe in) about taking Scented Balance to the next level. A central location is important as I want as many people as possible to comfortably feel like I’m within reach when they need me.

Through Scented Balance, you know (I hope) that I have products to help you find your happy, soothe your raw emotions, manage your pain, and take on the world – and win. That’s what I do. I also know my studio wasn’t in the most convenient location for you.

Over the last few months, I’ve looked at different spaces for convenience.

Sheesh!

The rent in some of these spaces is out of reach. And that out-of-reach rent would have placed a whole lot of STRESS on me. And I simply can’t justify it.

Out of the BLUE – I got a contact from the absolutely amazing Pattie of Ramey Dawn Wellness Group – just like that – who knew?

Ramey Dawn Wellness Group is full of holistic practitioners who help you live your best life – and now it includes me. You’ll find an esthetician, skin care specialist, health and life coach, acupuncturist, reflexologist, massage therapist, personal trainer, pain management and weight management specialist AND an aromatherapist – Scented Balance – all under one roof.

Needless to say, I’m thrilled about this next chapter for Scented Balance and for ME personally.

For now, I’ll keep doing the fairs, festivals and other events as I’ve committed to them through the end of 2019. After that, I do appreciate getting out and meeting folks, so I’ll continue attending a few select events just so I can shake your hand (or hug your neck).

I’ll post my hours on my Facebook page in the next couple of weeks and I plan on hosting a Grand Opening this summer, but I wanted you to share in my good news now!

I hope to see you very soon!

Blessings,

Melissa

 

Loving Kindness For You Today

Loving Kindness Meditation,

Today, I’d like to take a moment to share some loving kindness with you. I ran across the Loving Kindness Meditation – I used to recite it quite often, but I let that beautiful habit slide. It came across my newsfeed recently and stopped me in my tracks!

If you’re like me, trying to meditate is like attempting to bathe a cat. There’s wiggling all over the place, it’s frustrating and nothing really gets accomplished. 

Sigh…

But this I can do!

Maybe meditation or prayer just isn’t your cup of tea, but you’re looking for something to ease into your day when you wake up.

It’s a short and sweet mindfulness meditation that takes all of 15 seconds to say either out loud or silently.

The benefits of meditation are proven to promote health in many ways. Just think – meditation may keep you off pills down the road, and yes, aromatherapy is perfect for this.

Benefits of Meditation

Even if you can’t sit down and meditate for 20 minutes at a pop, there are benefits to meditating for even a few moments.

Aromatherapy and Meditation

The use of pure essential oils is proven to help with anxiety and stress and can help you relax enough to meditate for a few minutes at a time. Even though I’m not real good at meditating, I keep at it. This is the blend I use to help me quiet my mind and it’s also good before bedtime: 

Meditation Blend  mindfulness meditation

    • 10 drops Frankincense
    • 5 drops Oppopanax
    • 3 drops Myrrh
    • 1 ounce Jojoba Oil

Combine all ingredients in a small bottle and apply to your temples, inner wrists and heart area. If you’d rather diffuse this blend, simply add two drops of each essential oil (omit the jojoba oil) into your cold mist diffuser. 

If you’d like this blend but don’t have the oils on hand, simply to to Custom Blends in the Aromatherapy Shop and specify Meditation Blend. It’s $19.95 plus shipping (and tax if you’re in North Carolina).

This simple Loving Kindness Prayer is also good for self-care. I’m sending out many blessings to all of you today:

May you be happy

May you be healthy

May you be safe

May you live with ease

Blessings,

Melissa

Talking About The Difficult Stuff In Life

Talking About The Difficult Stuff, difficult conversations, sexual abuse, Shaman, Emotional Healing

If you were kind enough to read my blog post from last week (thank you!) then you know I talked about some tender and harsh events from my childhood that are very difficult to talk about. I met and talked with Melody Morris a couple of weeks ago which is where I got the idea to dive right in and not shy away from my experiences.

So I asked Melody Morris to write a guest post to explain how she helps women own their muchness and helps them realize their full potential.

I’m honored this week that Melody is here to share her story.

Where Own Your Muchness Began

Melody Morris is the CEO of Total Energy Healing USA, a motivational speaker, modern day mystic and highly intuitive Shaman. She has studied multiple energy healing modalities for more than 2 decades, both from scientific and spiritual aspects.

She empowers women daily to Own Your Muchness by helping them heal from past sexual and relationship trauma and teaches them how to manifest the lives and relationships they desire and deserve.

Melody has also studied manifestation and mindset for many years and loves to share her knowledge and her intuitive messages with her clients.

Melody’s Experience With Own Your Muchness

I know many of you read Melissa’s post from last week and could feel how difficult it was for her to be so honest about her life in such a public way. Thank you for sharing such a painful memory with us. You are brave and will help many women with your story.

I was raised by parents who cared for me in ways that I can’t even fathom.  I look back on me as a child and wonder how they didn’t eat me like some wild animals do!

Despite their best efforts I grew up believing everything that happened to anyone that I cared about was my fault. I took on responsibility for everything, even things that had absolutely nothing to do with me.

I was highly sensitive to people in pain so I always imagined myself going into some kind of medicine; a doctor at first and then as I grew older I thought maybe a physical therapist. My dream was always to be some form of healer.

My negative track record with sex didn’t happen until college when at 20 years old I thought I was bullet proof and walked the wrong path across my college campus and was pinned down and raped by a baseball team member, while 2 of his buddies helped hold me.

I completely clammed up, I never told anyone. If any of my family reads this, it’ll be the first they have ever heard of it. Even then, that was my fault. I thought I deserved it somehow.

My relationship with sex and intimate relationships just continued in a downward spiral from there. I was completely void of emotion when I accepted an engagement ring and then later married a man who turned out to be just another someone who would abuse me, in a long line of abusive someone’s.

One relationship after another I would stay and put up with all kinds of bullshit from all sides, until it became too much for me and then I would run, usually right into another bad relationship.

It had been a long road and by this point I was so very tired. Moving to North Carolina was the change that really began my journey into embracing me and owning my own muchness.

From One Bad Relationship To Another

Shortly after moving here I was introduced to shamanic healing. I already had an established meditation practice, I could astral project and effect my own and others energy, so I was no stranger to the more spiritual, less religious path.

It has been, at times, a challenge for me to explain to people what I do and how I got here to this place of Owning My Muchness.

I was like a dirty pond, with my Muchness at the bottom waiting to be released from layer after layer of shit I had piled on top of it beginning with blaming myself as a child and continuing right up until that point.

When you’re clearing a pond, you skim off everything on the surface and then wait for the next layer of junk to rise, so you can skim it off, leaving room for the next layer to rise, over and over until you clear the water. Believe in Yourself, Self Doubt, Self Confidence, Fear, healing from sexual trauma

My layers of pond scum were covering up some awesomeness that I am still in awe of some days.

We each have our own pond and at the bottom under nasty icky layers of pond scum, our Muchness waits to be uncovered.

This is what I do. I teach others how to skim off the pond scum and clear the water so your individual and awesomely unique YOU can show up and shine.

In everything we experience, there is a lesson to learn about ourselves. For example, a limiting belief that we can change will bring us closer and closer to being exactly who we are at our core, where our true power comes from.

All of the masks we wear, the self-worth issues, the blame issues, the addictions, etc., none of those things are us. These are techniques we use to make us feel more palatable to ourselves or to others.

We each have our own pond. It’s up to you whether you are ready to clean it up or not. If you are, I’m here to help.

I’ve done it myself so I have some insight that just might help you through your scum-skimming exercises.

Own Your Muchness. It’s there at the bottom of the pond waiting for you to let it shine!

How To Connect With Melody

If it’s time for you to Own Your Muchness and you’re ready to begin healing, here are the best ways to connect with Melody:

Facebook www.facebook.com/totalenergyhealingusa

Facebook group www.facebook.com/groups/601374293612017

I’m so grateful that Melody and I have met and so appreciate our conversations. What this all boils down to is that I’m not the only one these experiences have happened to. If I can shed some light on such a tender subject and help another woman heal, then, as an aromatherapist, I believe I’m serving you in the best way possible. 

Emotional healing can happen. Aromatherapy helps this process. Please let me know how I can help. Please contact Melody at her links listed above, or fill out this contact form and let’s get started on the healing journey today.

Blessings,

Melissa