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Dealing With Negative Self Talk

Dealing With Negative Self Talk

Negative Self Talk, how to improve self esteem, building self confidence, positive thinkingdealing with negative self talkIf you’re anything like me, you’re constantly dealing with negative self talk. Sigh…It’s that little voice in your head that never allows you to be good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, thin enough, brave enough…you get the picture.

Negative self talk is the worst form of abuse as it is invisible yet it leaves you feeling powerless, angry, frustrated, ashamed and any number of emotions that keep you on an uneven keel.

Many times, you don’t even realize the tirade that kicks in until it’s brought to your attention by friends or family:

“Why are you being so hard on yourself?”

“Why do you beat yourself up like that?”

“Can’t you just cut yourself some slack?”

“It’s no big deal – just let it go!”

Sound familiar? It does, doesn’t it? The smallest mis-step becomes your worst nightmare. You don’t think it’s that bad – I’m exaggerating – right? No. I’m not exaggerating. You overthink and over-analyze every single error, every single flaw, every single slight, every single thing that takes away from life being perfect.

It’s enough to drive the strongest lion in the den absolutely nuts. Oh – it does, too! You’re angry and frustrated, scared that somebody will find out you’re a fraud and plain old pissed off at life. I’ve been where you are. My reasoning? You can’t beat me up any worse than I beat myself up – and if I beat me up first, you can’t hurt me.

Surprised?

By the way, that is the worst line of reasoning ever to come down the pike. It steels you against any happiness, saps your joy and keeps your guard up at all times. (You can’t hide from me – I’m the worst of the worst in this situation…)

So what helps here? What can I do to make a difference in your life? First of all you have to admit that you do this. Secondly you have to want to change this behavior – I’m telling you right now that negative self talk does you no good. And yes, I can see you rolling your eyes at me in that tone of voice!

Aromatherapy and Holistic Life Coaching

Aromatherapy and life coaching are amazing and simple tools for you to take charge of your well-being. Holistic life coaching gives insight and clarity to the negative self talk and essential oils have properties that support that awareness and change as well as taking charge of your well-being.

I have been training as a holistic life coach since October 2016 and will finish my program this month. This coaching program has given me a fresh perspective to the reasons behind my negative self talk. I started the coaching journey because I knew in my heart I had wisdom to help others who feel stuck and unsure of their next step. What I didn’t know is how much this coaching program would help me change my life for the better.

What does coaching do for you? The International Coaching Federation (ICF) has an excellent explanation of how coaching can help you:

Professional coaching brings many wonderful benefits: fresh perspectives on personal challenges, enhanced decision-making skills, greater interpersonal effectiveness, and increased confidence. And, the list does not end there. Those who undertake coaching also can expect appreciable improvement in productivity, satisfaction with life and work, and the attainment of relevant goals.

Through the coaching sessions, I gained insight into why the negative self talk was so dominant in my life. I learned how to handle that voice when it reared its’ ugly head. I combined the coaching with aromatherapy to support the changes that I’ve made and to strengthen my resolve to be kind to me.

Alone, each profession offers safe, effective tools to help you take charge of your well-being. Together, coaching and aromatherapy can help you find the confidence in yourself that you deserve. Both professions together show you how to improve self esteem and focus on building self confidence.

It’s not my place – or my job – to judge what you’re going through or how you’re dealing with life as you know it. It is my job to honor you where you’re at in your life and to offer sound tools to help you move out of your stuck place.

I am so very grateful for the journey I’m on and honored to serve you through holistic life coaching and aromatherapy. If you feel stuck in your life and unsure what to do next, I hope you’ll consider coaching with me. To start your process, I have created a special blend for the negative self talk:

Releasing Negative Self Talk

  • 6 drops     Copaiba (Copafera officinalis)
  • 5 drops     Laurel Leaf (Lauris nobilis)
  • 4 drops     Juniper Berry (Juniperis communis)
  • 4 drops     Sweet Marjoram (Orihanum majorana)
  • 3 drops     German Chamomile (Matricaria recutita)
  • 2 drops     Cajeput (Melaeuca lucadendron var cajeputi)
  • 2 drops     Black Pepper (Piper nigrum)
  • 2 drops     Bergamot (Citrus bergamia)
  • 2 drops     Helichrysum (Helichrysum italicum)
  • 2 ounces   Unscented Lotion
  • 2 ounce     Blue Glass Bottle with Treatment Pump

Combine all ingredients and shake well before each use. Apply a small amount directly over your heart 3 times daily.

If you do not have these oils, this blend is available for $29.99 plus shipping of $3.95. You can use this short contact form and I’ll take it from there.

You don’t even have to leave your home as I work mainly through Skype/Google+ or by phone.

Where are you stuck? How can I help you today? Don’t wait – call today.

Blessings!

Melissa

These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. My products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent disease. Always seek the advice of a qualified medical professional for any health issue.