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Own Your Muchness

Own Your Muchness, Sexual Abuse

Own Your Muchness – isn’t that a powerful statement? I met the powerful woman behind that statement recently at a weekly meeting I attend and I was so inspired! As a matter of fact, I’m so inspired that I asked her permission to write about it in this week’s post.

What Does It Mean Own Your Muchness?

Melody Morris is the amazing talent behind Total Energy Healing USA and her mission is to empower women especially those who have experienced sexual trauma. It’s especially tender to me as I experienced trauma of this nature as a child. 

It’s critical to your quality of life for you to find the best way to heal this trauma and for me, it’s been a very long journey.

What I really want to share with you today is a little bit about Melody’s message of owning your muchness.

Melody is a shaman and energy healer (and holistic life coach) and she’s agreed to be a guest on my Scented Balance blog in the next few weeks to talk about what she does, why she does it and how it can benefit you. (I’m really excited about this!)

When I asked Melody to explain “own your muchness”, she said it’s about owning your power, understanding who you really are and and embracing the real you – not the you that everyone else wants you to be.

It’s all about owning your passions, embracing your quirks, accepting your life experiences and being good with how it makes you a beautifully unique human being. 

Remember the advertisement “Love the skin you’re in”? It goes right along with owning your muchness; accepting yourself as a human being, not apologizing for taking up space on the planet and NEVER apologizing for living your life on YOUR terms.

Since Melody and I were talking one on one, I personally understood her message to me to appreciate all my quirks, my desires, my heart, my soul, my very uniqueness – all the traits that make me ME.

Why Does It Matter?

Yes, right now I’m struggling to share with you why all this matters. If I’m struggling to make sense of parts of my life, I know I’m not the only one.

I was raised by a very controlling mother who never taught me about self worth; only that I should be ashamed of who I was/am. Between her and the patriarchal religion that taught me I’m nothing but a worthless piece of shit, you can hopefully understand why I’ve struggled to come to terms with my childhood, the person I truly am and why I’m sharing this rawness with you.

The message I got pounded into my head is that I didn’t have any business taking up space on the planet. I wasn’t allowed to learn how to make decisions, good or bad. They were made for me because I wasn’t good enough to make them on my own.

Then there’s the sexual abuse. I was molested at the tender age of 8. When I told my mother (at 16) that I couldn’t take any more, I was blamed for it – as a child. To my face. (Of course it’s my fault – it couldn’t be his!)

I spent a lot of years feeling depressed, ashamed and uncomfortable in my own skin. I experienced some really bad relationships because I didn’t have the courage to own my muchness.  knowing who you are, speaking my truth, aromatherapy for trauma

So, it matters that I own my muchness because I’m done apologizing for being a sensitive person, finished with apologizing because I stepped out of the box I was put in and done feeling ashamed for speaking my truth.

I’ve come to terms with the compassionate, sensitive, quirky human that I am. When you show up every day as who you really are, the right people come into your life. And the wrong people fade away.

That’s where the real magic is.

My conversation with Melody really resonated with me – actually I felt like I had an aha moment. There’s real power in appreciating the traits that make you a unique soul in a population of billions. When you own that power, you live a happier, more genuine and fulfilled life.

Isn’t that what life’s all about?

Why I Do What I Do

My mission – my passion – is to help women understand their inner beauty in a society that only values outer beauty. I believe it’s why it’s important to share aromatherapy, why it’s my special gift and why I’m so good at it. Aromatherapy offers a wonderful tool for your daily life and for healing from life’s traumas.

And we all experience traumas in life.

Thank you for reading and allowing me to share a painful part of my life. I can’t wait for you to meet Melody Morris! In the meantime, here’s a link to her website: Total Energy Healing.

Thank you for being a part of my life – however messy it is. Be who you are and OWN YOUR MUCHNESS!



What is Aromatherapy?

essential oils uses, What is Aromatherapy, using essential oils, therapeutic-grade essential oils, body, mind and spirit, What is aromatherapy? I get asked that question a lot. Someone will ask me what I do for a living and when I tell them, they look at me like a deer caught in headlights.

The National Association of Holistic Aromatherapy – NAHA – answers this question beautifully:

Aromatherapy, also referred to as Essential Oil therapy, can be defined as the art and science of utilizing naturally extracted aromatic essences from plants to balance, harmonize and promote the health of body, mind and spirit.  It seeks to unify physiological, psychological and spiritual processes to enhance an individual’s innate healing process.

So, in a nutshell, as an aromatherapist, I offer plant-based guidance and tools to help your body, mind and spirit be as healthy as possible. Aromatherapy aims to address the fact that your body, mind and spirit are connected – not separate.

I don’t just look at the physical issues that you confidentially discuss with me. I also look at what’s going on emotionally as well.


Why Do Emotions Matter?

I am a firm believer that all physical maladies begin in the 6 inches between your ears. Yes – I know – smoking causes cancer, too much junk may cause diabetes, too much stress causes heart attacks, etc., etc., etc.

I get that.

What most people don’t get is that the underlying reasons why we smoke, eat junk and feel stressed out is based on emotions. I have learned an all too difficult lesson that my emotional reactions causes most of my pain on an emotional level which usually comes out in something physical – especially when I try to stifle those emotions. Emotions and Aromatherapy

Case in point – I’m really having a tough time with my left shoulder. It hurts; I can’t exercise and free movement is hampered. Shoulder pain is all about bearing a load that is too heavy and, for me personally, trying to do everything by myself. Yep – you guessed it – the emotional stress of trying to do everything alone is showing up as physical pain in my shoulder.

So what am I doing about it? Actually, I’m doing a lot.

First of all, some things that I thought were important had to go by the wayside. I have learned that I can’t do everything by myself and expect to get a good night’s rest. Nor can I go wide open day in and day out and expect to remain healthy.

Oh – and believe it or not, I forget to eat. Seriously. I get so wrapped up in what I’m doing that I don’t listen to my body rhythms. Simply sitting down at the table with clean healthy food makes a huge difference in my stress level.

Secondly – and I believe this is very important – I use pure essential oils to address my underlying emotional issues. I created a blend of essential oils that I diffuse in the air to assist in letting go of emotional baggage, to address old traumas, to shine a light on anger, and most of all, to calm and uplift my energy.*

How can I help you if I don’t help myself first? You can’t give someone a drink from an empty cup.

I love being an aromatherapist. It is fulfilling and speaks to my soul. Whenever a client comes back and tells me the blend I created really made a difference for their issue, it feeds my soul. 

I want to show you how easily you can take control of your physical, mental and spiritual health, too.

How does Aromatherapy help?

It’s important that you know: I cannot heal you in any way, shape or form. What I can do as an aromatherapist is offer an amazing plant-based tool that triggers your body’s innate healing ability – whether it be physical, mental or spiritual.*

My approach to aromatherapy is to address the whole person – body, mind and spirit. I focus on areas where I know aromatherapy makes a difference:

My fee for a one-hour confidential consultation is $95 plus the cost of blends. The consultation fee covers researching any medications you take, what issues you want to address and the essential oils that can help you trigger your body’s innate healing abilities.

I can’t make any guarantees – neither can your doctor – but what I can do is offer you natural – holistic – tools to help you take charge of your own well being. I work mainly through Skype so you don’t even have to leave your home.

Not everyone has access to regular doctor’s visits, and aromatherapy offers a way to get out ahead of minor issues before they become full-blown medical concerns.

Take that first step today – call, email or fill out the contact form and let’s get started today.

As always, I send you my blessings!


*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. Any products mentioned are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent disease. Always seek the advice of a qualified medical professional for any health issue.