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A Little Self Love on Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is this week – ah, the day of love. I’m more interested in a little self love on Valentine’s Day so I have one question. 

Why do we need one day a year to really focus on love?

Focusing On Love Every Day

My beliefs have changed over the years (I’m sure yours have, too) and here’s something I live by:

We are all connected.

In talking with a friend of mine the other day, she said something that really spoke to me. She said, “when you love yourself and practice real self-care, that goes out into the universe and helps everyone else, too.”

Today, I’d like to share a little bit of love and send all sorts of good vibes out into the universe. This is an excerpt from the Beautiful You Manifesto written by Rosie Molinary. You can read the entire manifesto – which is amazing – on the Beautiful You page at Scented Balance.

practice radical self-acceptance.

you are already worthy. you are always enough.

embrace your total wellness – your body, soul and mind guide you through this life.

you must take care of you. you teach other people how to treat you.

never forget that you have the right and responsibility to quit anything that hurts you.

What strikes me the most is the sentence about practicing radical self acceptance. Honestly, I never really thought about self love and self acceptance until I actually started writing down the words that I say to myself.

whoo…

Yes, I’ve written about radical self love and self acceptance several other times. But it bears repeating as many times as it takes for women (in particular) to realize we are so much more than what society would have us believe.

Today, during this week of Valentine’s Day, take a look inward and see how you can love yourself just a little bit more. How about focusing on treasured friendships (especially your gal pals) instead of the hype?what is self care, self care, self care activities, Galentine's Day, teach other people how to treat you

I’ve always thought that Valentine’s Day is incredibly high-pressure and overblown. Romantic love can be fleeting and messy and for some, Valentine’s Day is miserable.

For the few people in my life that I dearly love – I let them know as often as possible. Otherwise, it becomes just like the day after Christmas – everything goes back to normal and the cease-fire ends.

I’ve created a beautiful blend for practicing self love.

Self Love Blend

  • 5 drops Lavender (Lavendula angustifolia)
  • 3 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill (Citrus aurantium var. amara)
  • 2 drops Jasmine (Jasminum grandiflorium)
  • 2 drops Frankincense (Boswellia carterii)
  • 10 mL Jojoba Wax
  • 10 mL roller bottle

Combine all ingredients and roll on your heart area three times daily.

In the next few days, I have a new line of aromatherapy roller ball scents making their debut specifically for Chakra care. I’ve paid particular attention to the heart Chakra which is the center of love for yourself and others.

To celebrate friendships, I’m hosting a Galentine’s Day Get Together on February 13th from 7 – 9 PM at my newly renovated and oh-so-beautiful studio.

I want you to feel a warm welcome when you step into my studio and the first 10 Galentines will each receive a sample of the Heart Chakra blend. #galentinesday

I want each one of you to know how beautiful you are – inside and out. To each of you – you’re amazing with your own special gifts and I’m honored that you’ve chosen to be a part of my community.

Many thanks, blessings and much love to you always!

Melissa

Simply Show Up In Life

Simply Show Up In Life,My friend’s father died at Christmas. What do you say to someone in that moment when they need you the most? I didn’t say a whole lot – of course I said how deeply sorry I was for her loss. Outside of those few words, I chose to simply show up for her.

Nothing you can say or do will ease the loss of a loved one. Nothing.

As humans, we feel helpless especially when we don’t know what to say or do. The best way to handle that helplessness is to show up.

At his celebration of life service, my friend didn’t have a whole lot of time – obviously – to chat.

But she knew I was there because all I could do was simply show up in life – for her – at that moment.

When You Don’t Know What To Do

I recently read an article by Glennon Doyle about simply showing up in life.

Glennon Doyle is an insightful writer who’s been to hell and back with drug addiction and bulimia and in the process, figured out the secret to life is simply showing up.

She says:

The secret of life is not about knowing what to say or do. It’s not about doing love or loss right. Life cannot be handled. The secret is simply to show up. It’s about witnessing it all, even the pain, and letting it touch you and make you not harder, but more tender. Showing up, feeling it all—this is my new kind of prayer.

It took her beloved grandmother living her last moments and her sister giving birth – all on the same day – to change her thinking about what to do when you don’t know what to do.

Can you imagine how you’d make a choice like that?

You don’t. You simply show up in life.

You do your very best to simply show up knowing that it’s painful, it’s heartbreaking, it’s life-altering.

What I’ve Learned About Simply Showing Up In Life

I’ve learned that life is hard. I’ve learned that to have a friend, you have to be a friend. A true friend. I’ve learned that sometimes, saying nothing and just showing up is what matters most. To Have A Friend You Have To Be A Friend

Knowing that nothing I could say or do would change the situation or make it any easier, I showed up.

Instead of mumbling the standard ‘he’s in a better place’ (which does absolutely nothing I might add) I showed up for my friend and simply said:

Peace and be well.  

During those inevitable times when life goes sideways, yes, it will hurt. But kindness makes the bitterness of life easier to handle.

Glennon Doyle went on to say:

I felt like I was getting the inside scoop from life itself, and it was saying, “Yes, Glennon, it’s as hard as you fear. That won’t change. You will lose people. It will hurt badly, and yet…we go on. Tomorrow will be beautiful again—more beautiful than you can imagine.”

It’s when you don’t know what to say or do that simply showing up in life means the world.

Please take a moment to share this with someone you love. And if you need some inspiration for showing up, let’s talk.

Blessings,

Melissa

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Spoken From The Heart

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I wish I knew what to write about this week. My heart is hurting at all the hatred that has been spewed in the United States. So, this week, my words are spoken from the heart not about essential oils, but about kindness compassion and tolerance.

Anne Frank was such an old soul who knew so deeply what the world has yet to figure out. Here are some of her wise words – spoken from the heart:

How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” 

It’s really a wonder that I haven’t dropped all my ideals, because they seem so absurd and impossible to carry out. Yet I keep them, because in spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart.
I’ve found that there is always some beauty left — in nature, sunshine, freedom, in yourself; these can all help you.
No one has ever become poor by giving.
I don’t think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains.
And then, there’s Mister Rogers. He is sorely missed as Fred Rogers had a unique and kind way of looking at the world and helping us – especially children – process the most painful of times.
There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind. 
In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.
When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’
Today, I’m simply reaching out to you with kindness, light and love in a world gone mad. We are the ones left behind to keep life going and to be kind to one another. We are the ones who can show kindness, compassion and tolerance to those who don’t look like us. 
There is beauty left in the world and each of us has a light to shine. Please, take time to shine your light today wherever you are. 
Sending you love and light,
Melissa