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A Little Self Love on Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day is this week – ah, the day of love. I’m more interested in a little self love on Valentine’s Day so I have one question. 

Why do we need one day a year to really focus on love?

Focusing On Love Every Day

My beliefs have changed over the years (I’m sure yours have, too) and here’s something I live by:

We are all connected.

In talking with a friend of mine the other day, she said something that really spoke to me. She said, “when you love yourself and practice real self-care, that goes out into the universe and helps everyone else, too.”

Today, I’d like to share a little bit of love and send all sorts of good vibes out into the universe. This is an excerpt from the Beautiful You Manifesto written by Rosie Molinary. You can read the entire manifesto – which is amazing – on the Beautiful You page at Scented Balance.

practice radical self-acceptance.

you are already worthy. you are always enough.

embrace your total wellness – your body, soul and mind guide you through this life.

you must take care of you. you teach other people how to treat you.

never forget that you have the right and responsibility to quit anything that hurts you.

What strikes me the most is the sentence about practicing radical self acceptance. Honestly, I never really thought about self love and self acceptance until I actually started writing down the words that I say to myself.

whoo…

Yes, I’ve written about radical self love and self acceptance several other times. But it bears repeating as many times as it takes for women (in particular) to realize we are so much more than what society would have us believe.

Today, during this week of Valentine’s Day, take a look inward and see how you can love yourself just a little bit more. How about focusing on treasured friendships (especially your gal pals) instead of the hype?what is self care, self care, self care activities, Galentine's Day, teach other people how to treat you

I’ve always thought that Valentine’s Day is incredibly high-pressure and overblown. Romantic love can be fleeting and messy and for some, Valentine’s Day is miserable.

For the few people in my life that I dearly love – I let them know as often as possible. Otherwise, it becomes just like the day after Christmas – everything goes back to normal and the cease-fire ends.

I’ve created a beautiful blend for practicing self love.

Self Love Blend

  • 5 drops Lavender (Lavendula angustifolia)
  • 3 drops Neroli Petitgrain Co-Distill (Citrus aurantium var. amara)
  • 2 drops Jasmine (Jasminum grandiflorium)
  • 2 drops Frankincense (Boswellia carterii)
  • 10 mL Jojoba Wax
  • 10 mL roller bottle

Combine all ingredients and roll on your heart area three times daily.

In the next few days, I have a new line of aromatherapy roller ball scents making their debut specifically for Chakra care. I’ve paid particular attention to the heart Chakra which is the center of love for yourself and others.

To celebrate friendships, I’m hosting a Galentine’s Day Get Together on February 13th from 7 – 9 PM at my newly renovated and oh-so-beautiful studio.

I want you to feel a warm welcome when you step into my studio and the first 10 Galentines will each receive a sample of the Heart Chakra blend. #galentinesday

I want each one of you to know how beautiful you are – inside and out. To each of you – you’re amazing with your own special gifts and I’m honored that you’ve chosen to be a part of my community.

Many thanks, blessings and much love to you always!

Melissa

What Is Self Care?

what is self care, self care, self care activities, why is self care important, self care ideas, take careDo you ever really ask yourself what is self care? You hear a lot about it and also a lot of “oh pulleeze” right behind it.

It sounds fluffy and selfish to talk about self care, but please hear me out.

You can’t give someone a drink from an empty cup.

How many times have you felt bone-weary? Is there a sense of fatigue so deep that sleep doesn’t help? Maybe you’re stressing over a work project that’s not going well, a child that is acting out more than normal, or you’re a caregiver for both children and parents.

You’re stretched thin. And now we’re in the midst of the busy holiday season which adds even more stress. Something’s got to give and so you give up exercising, an hour of sleep at night or skip your lunch altogether.

As selfish and extravagant as it sounds, neglecting your own well-being is the worst thing that you can do. Can you fill your cup from an empty well?

Why Is Self Care Important?

We’ve all heard the saying about burning the candle at both ends and yet this is ingrained into our lifestyles. We pack our schedules like crazy and then fall into bed exhausted at night only to get up and do it all over again the next day.

Simply put, self care is fundamental to your well-being from a physical, mental and emotional standpoint. When you keep going (because you think you HAVE to or the world will spin off its’ axis), you don’t focus as well, your energy lags and your skills may suffer – you’re just not on your “A” game.

Eventually, you reach the point where your well has run dry and that’s when you get sick. Dealing with a nasty cold or even worse – the flu? How much rest do you get? What’s your stress level like? Are you running on empty?

Sitting in front of the television watching all the cable news doesn’t count as rest or relaxationit actually stresses your system more. Think I’m kidding? Watching a steady diet of the latest outrageous news on television or social media tends to make you feel like the world is going to hell in a handbasket. 

Mary McNaughton-Cassill is a professor at the University of Texas-San Antonio and a leading researcher on the connection between media consumption and stress. She says:

“In addition to a burgeoning sense of helplessness, she said, cognitive shortcuts triggered by the news can also lead us to gradually see the world as a darker and darker place, chipping away at certain optimistic tendencies. “

Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying to unplug and be a Pollyanna – not by a long shot. What I am saying is that a steady diet of the worst the world has to offer really adds to your stress and who needs that?

What Is Self Care?

The University at Buffalo teaches the students in the School of Social Work that self care is their personal responsibility. They plainly explain that self care is a survival skill and why: Self Care, Take Care Of Yourself,

“Self-care is an essential social work survival skill. Self-care refers to activities and practices that we can engage in on a regular basis to reduce stress and maintain and enhance our short- and longer-term health and well-being. Self-care is necessary for your effectiveness and success in honoring your professional and personal commitments.”

So, the first thing I hear from clients about self care is “I don’t have time!” Actually, you do have time. You’re simply not making self care a priority. We all have the same 24 hours in a day and it’s your priorities that determine how you spend it.

Don’t get me wrong – I know you have 3 kids, a full-time job, laundry, meals and homework. I’m well aware of that. What happens when you are sick in bed for three or four days from the flu?

By making your own well-being a priority, you’ll be stronger and less stressed in the long run. You can’t be effective as a parent or employee if you don’t take care of you!

Self care isn’t something you can do once in a great while. Practicing self care on a daily basis reaps major rewards! The easiest and best way is to practice small little habits every single day.

Self Care Ideas

Here are some ideas for self care that you can do anytime and anywhere in a short amount of time.

    • Take a few seconds several times a day to breathe slowly and deeply in through your nose and out through your mouth.
    • Stand up and stretch. If your co-workers look at you funny, why not ask them to join you? Stretch your arms, legs and back every couple of hours.
    • Ask for help. You can’t do everything alone (just ask me how I know this one). When you ask for help, you give someone an opportunity to give back which is good for their self care! self care
    • Laugh. Read a comic strip, listen to a comedian (I love Jeff Dunham for just this reason) or anything that will make you laugh. Laughing releases the feel-good endorphins which make you feel less stressed!
    • UNPLUG. No really. Unplug from everything for one hour every single day. I actually unplug nearly every Sunday when I’m not at a market or festival.
    • Walk up and down the stairs three times. This little bit of exercise is surprisingly effective!
    • Take a break when you need one. Pushing through without a moment to rest is very hard on your adrenal and immune systems.
    • Replace one sugared beverage every day with a bottle or glass of water. I didn’t say give up your soda, I said replace just one with a bottle of water.
    • Learn to say no. If you find yourself overscheduled and pushed to the point of resentment, saying no will give you back your power. If you’re not sure you can do this, let’s talk. As a holistic life coach, I can show you how to set healthy boundaries.
    • Aromatherapy does wonders for your body, mind and spirit through the use of essential oils. Take a big whiff several times a day of any essential oil that is uplifting to you such as peppermint, lemon or sweet orange.

Oh – and one more thing: every morning before you do anything, drink 6 ounces of room temperature water and squeeze half a lemon into it. Your liver will LOVE you!

If you need a bit of extra help especially through the holidays, use Stress Support Aromatherapy Roller Ball. Apply it to your adrenal glands that sit on top of each kidney 3 or 4 times a day as a tonic for your system. Aromatherapy is an amazing tool to help yourself stay – or get – healthy.

A huge part of self care is setting healthy boundaries. Remember – no is a complete sentence. And if you need help with this area of your life, I can help.

As a certified aromatherapist and holistic life coach, I’m here to help you, support you and show you how to make self care a priority. Fill out this short contact form and let’s get started today.

Blessings,

Melissa