Kindness and Gratitude

Random Acts of Gratitude, Feeling Helpless

Right now, I’m so aggravated I could spit nails. That’s what happens when you have to wait – and wait – and wait on Google. Grrr…I know the best way to get out of this mindset is to be grateful. For something. Anything…so for me, it’s thinking about kindness and gratitude.

This “little” blip in my aromatherapy business isn’t easy right now – seriously Google?? But I know me and if I don’t fix this mindset fast, I’ll go down the rabbit hole and just be mad and I don’t want to do that.

Kindness has been on my heart for quite a while now. Kindness to those I meet in my comings and goings and to myself.

I’m a firm believer in living a life that rings true for you and if that means letting go of toxic people, then you have to do it in the name of kindness.

That brings me to my relationship with my mother which has been intensely complicated (and toxic at times). Life was hard with her and many times, I made it harder by being an idiot. While I tried to stay under the radar, sometimes, I simply couldn’t accomplish that task.

For a long time, we didn’t talk very often because our relationship was so strained. I had to process, grow and find a way to be kind to her.

Yes, aromatherapy helped me through the processing and growth. Not gonna lie – I depended on my Emotional Healing rollerball a whole lot to help heal the tears and anger and regret.

Fast forward to now. My mother is getting on in years and lives in an assisted living center about 10 hours from me. The last time I saw her – in person – was the summer of 2019.

Yes, we’re dealing with a pandemic, yes, it’s 10 hours away, yes, you have to be incredibly careful right now. But I couldn’t let nearly 2 years go by without seeing my mother in person.

Because kindness.

So, a couple of weeks ago, I packed up, masked up and drove to see her.

I knew that I couldn’t go inside the facility to see her, so I brought a chair and knocked on the facility door. They showed me to her outside door to surprise her. I brought coffee and doughnuts for both of us and sat for a few hours outside to be together. 

She cried. I cried. She talked. I talked. It was a good visit. A visit filled with kindness and gratitude. I even got a selfie of the two of us through the screen door! kindness and gratitude, emotional healing rollerball

I’m grateful I could take the time to go see her. I’m grateful to have a car that would get me there and back and much gratitude for the beautiful weather while I was there. I’m grateful that I’ve grown and processed all the shit through the years and have kindness in my heart for her.

Isn’t that what life is about?

I feel so very grateful for you – for your kindness and support through the years. I’m grateful I have an amazing gift to offer the world – to offer you.

It’s a different Thanksgiving this year but it’s filled with more gratitude and kindness than I’ve felt in years.

Many blessings to each of you – I wish for you a wonderful Thanksgiving – thank you!

Melissa

P.S. What are you processing and growing from? Aromatherapy has helped me so much and I know it will help you, too. Wanna talk? You can call, email or fill out this short contact form. Blessings!